Wednesday, 30 November 2011

WK16: Day 3 - Oh BOY!!!

Oh BOY!!!!! I can’t believe it, we found out today that we are the proud parents of not 1, not 2 but 4 BOYS!  I am amazed and over joyed! Again it was too early for the fetal medicine specialist to confirm this himself but we saw what we saw. I can’t believe there wasn’t even one little girl amongst them :)

The scan went really well  with all babies (or boys as I can now refer to them as) doing great. They are all growing in line with the standard growth measurements, and our professor even commented that quite rarely for multiplies they are all pretty much identical sizes which is amazing. There is no sign of TTTS either, so we are chuffed to bits. I walked around with a really stupid grin on my face all day today! It’s amazing that we now know their sexes, and it makes it so much more real for me. How wrong was my prediction about 3 girls!!! I honestly thought the twins would be girls. The name hunt begins... I didn’t get any scan pics today, but I’ll get some in two weeks at the next scan.

Tuesday, 29 November 2011

WK16: Day 2 - I'm in Good Hands

What a pleasure it was to meet my specialist obstetrician for the first time today. She instantly put me at ease and I felt incredibly confident in her ability and in safe hands. We had a frank discussion about the risks for the babies and me again and I made it very clear that up to now I had felt pressured and uncomfortable with the continued ‘advice’ to terminate or reduce the pregnancy. She explained that it was only that they see a number of cases ending with a negative outcome. I can completely understand this but I explained that I was more than aware of all the potential risks involved and the decision to proceed with the pregnancy wasn`t any easy one.  As I had explained to our fetal medicine specialist if this was an ‘assisted’ pregnancy to begin with I could probably consider selective reduction, but I am not able to think about something like this when we’ve not intervened in any way to fall pregnant with these four little miracles. I need to trust my heart and my instincts and let this play out organically no matter what the outcome. She explained to me that if the twins did start showing signs of TTTS they could look at laser of the placenta to split it in half, but obviously with the four of them anything we might try and do to save the twins could affect the other two. It hurts to think that I could risk the lives of all four of them but I truly believe  that what is meant to be will be. I had my cervix measured as well which looked good and they will now measure it every two weeks to monitor any changes. If it does shorten they will need to consider a cervical stitch which stitches it closed and hopefully delay the onset of labour. As with everything else this carries a high risk of miscarriage, so let`s hope that it doesn’t come to that! Otherwise all’s fine and I just need to carry on eating, sleeping and taking my Iron and Asprin.

Sunday, 27 November 2011

WK 15: Day 7 - Time is Flying By!

The rest of this week was very uneventful. I don’t think that I’m eating enough as I haven’t put on any weight in the last 10 days. I need to start thinking about this carefully because it`s so important for the babies that we all put on weight. I had another midwife appointment on Friday which went fine. All the usual tests were good and we discussed the specialist needing to measure my cervix on Tuesday, why this was important and what the possible solutions were if they found that my cervix was shorting.

Basically, with the pressure and weight of the four of them on my cervix there is a high chance that my cervix could become weak and shorten which will in turn trigger premature labour. They will need to measure my cervix regularly to make sure this is not happening, and if there are early signs there are measures which can be taken to try and stop it from continuing. We also discussed any local antenatal classes for multipules as the only class which I have seen that looks relevant is a day course offered by Tamba but it's quite expensive and we really can't afford it right now. She kindly said she would ring a few people to find out for me. She rang back later that afternoon with the number for the women at Tamba who runs practical parenting evening classes. These are only £5 and would cover a number of the topics which I want to know about like breast feeding options. You might think I’m crazy wanting to even try it, but even if it’s just for a very short time I think my breast milk would help them so much! The course leader is setting up new dates for Bristol with me in mind, so I need to call her in a couple of days to find out when these will be.

I can’t believe another week has come and gone so quickly and all I have to show for it is a bigger belly and a very sleepy head. I have a feeling time is literally going to fly by and before we know it we are going to be looking at four little angels.

Here’s my bump now 15 weeks big

15 weeks pregnant 

Tuesday, 22 November 2011

WK15: Day 2 - The Support is Great

Not a very exciting start to the week. I’m definitely feeling better, although I had to leave work early yesterday to come home and rest for a couple of hours. Work has being so amazing, they have given me the ability to be a bit flexible about where I work from depending on how I’m feeling and what I need to do. I really can’t tell you how much I appreciate it!!! It takes off a lot of worry and pressure allowing me to focus on myself and the babies. With a couple of hours sleep I was fine and managed to finish my hours during the rest of the afternoon and evening.

Something else which started a couple of days ago which I don’t particularly like are the small heart palpitations I`m getting. They are quite disturbing to be honest as I’ve not had anything like that before where I find myself suddenly gasping for breath and feeling my heart thumping in my chest at quite a rate. I had a look on the Internet and apparently it1s quite common in pregnancy, as your heart needs to pump more blood around. Some women on the forums were complaining about it and getting up to 20 per hour which I certainly wouldn’t want!

Sunday, 20 November 2011

WK 14: Day 7 - Making Room for Stuff

My energy levels have definitely picked up this weekend and the nausea is staying nice a mild for most of the day which is such a relief. This is the first weekend in a couple of months that I haven’t slept and much as I possibly could.

Mart and I spent some time cleaning out all the cupboards and getting rid of anything we don't need so we can make space for new baby items. A lot of the cupboards are filled with Luke`s baby clothes which made us laugh as there are tons and that`s only his things!I have no idea where we are going to store everything in our little house when they come along...

Here’s my week 14 belly pic. I'm still growing :)

14 weeks pregnant 

Friday, 18 November 2011

WK 14: Day 5 - I'm Feeling a Bit Lost

Today wasn’t the best day... I went for my midwife appointment this morning which just felt quite pointless. As lovely as my midwife is it’s hard to get much from the visit as many of the things you would discuss for a singleton or even twin pregnancy don't really apply to me. We tried to listen to the heart beats but we could only hear the twins. I’m really glad I had my scan on Wednesday otherwise I would have been quite worried. My blood pressure and protein levels in my urine were all fine which is good to hear as the risk of pre-eclampsia is far greater for me. I came away feeling quite sad about the appointment  as I just don’t feel  like I am getting all the care that I could or should for someone carrying quads. It’s no ones fault, I just don’t think that there are enough people with experience in higher order multiples within my local network. Reading the guidelines which have been set by NICE regarding care for pregnant women of multiples, they detail a number of dedicated medical professionals with experience of multiplies who should be giving me advice and support but unfortunately I haven’t come across these as yet. I wonder whether Tamba may be able to help with some information, as my search on Google hasn’t brought anything up?

Wednesday, 16 November 2011

WK14: Day 3 - Scan Day

We went for a scan today. What a relief that all our babies are fine! It was so good to see them all again. Our fetal medicine specialist asked me for a third time after he’d finished scanning if I was sure I wanted to continue with the pregnancy! I almost screamed. They are really making me feel quite pressured now, and I think it’s a little wrong to continue asking me after 6 weeks and after seeing that all the babies are doing so well. Anyway they did a full anomaly scan today on all the babies, even though this is normally only done at 20 weeks. This is when they check all the limbs, organs and skeletons and measure everything as well. Everything was there and the right sizes for their gestation! YAY! There’s also no sign of TTTS at this stage, so fingers crossed this keeps being the result. We also found out some very exciting news. Our baby number 1 is a.... BOY!

They wouldn’t tell us themselves as it to early to 100% confirm but they said they would look in between the legs so we could have a look. There was no mistake that he is a little boy, but we couldn't really tell for the others as he was rushing by the end so wasn’t talking us through everything as he was going along.We are so over the moon that we are having another little boy. I was worried that Luke would be bombarded with a house full of sisters. I have an instinctual feeling that the other 3 are girls...Mart thinks more boys. I definitely think that the identical twins are girls, but we will just have to wait and see until the next time I have a scan in two weeks.

But until then here are the pics of my four little stars.

Baby 1 - Our boy

Babies 2 &3 - The Twins

Baby 4 - The king or queen of the castle on top 

It was so hard trying to concentrate in work for the rest of the afternoon! I kept looking at the scan pics and being totally amazed that I have four babies inside me. I wonder whether I will ever get over the shock.

When I picked Luke up from Nursery all the staff were waiting to see my scan pics. They are all so friendly and encouraging. Lyndsay the nursery head also let me know that she has contacted all the childcare training colleges for me to ask if they would have any students looking for placements. Apparently I could get someone to help with the babies a few hours a weeks for up to six months. That would be amazing!

Tuesday, 15 November 2011

WK14: Day 2 - Where Has My Appetite Gone

I’ve been struggling to find food that I want to eat the last couple of days. It feels like I’ve eaten all the healthy snack food I can find and nothing is really appealing to me at the moment. I’ve found that since my nausea has been getting better so my appetite has lessened and I’m just not feeling as hungry as I was but am fully aware that I need to be eating lots!

I looked up on the Internet today to find out why I`m getting sore ribs, as mine are feeling bruised and sore all the time and when I cough it feels incredibly painful. What I found was quite interesting. It said that sore ribs in pregnancy is from your ribs detaching themselves from the muscle to allow them to move and accommodate the organs which need to shift around to make space. I think in normal circumstances this would happen quite gradually and so you wouldn't necessarily feel it as much as I am.

I’ve been reading some amazing blogs online lately and the one I find the most inspiring is ‘Steeces Pieces’ a blog from a mum of quads who are now four years old. I’ve started from the beginning so I'm years behind her current posts, but it was so interesting to read her blogs from pregnancy till birth. She details her journey incredibly well and I can relate to everything she is feeling. Reading on further than I am is so interesting for me and also quite hard to take in. You can see that she really struggled towards the end, with things like pain and breathing difficulties. She seems to have handled it all incredibly well with such courage and strength! It’s really inspiring to read! I couldn’t help breaking down into tears when her family and friends detailed the birth and coming days with the babies. They were born at 31 weeks which is amazing, but she wasn’t able to see them for a couple of days after the birth as they had to be taken away immediately to be looked after. The pics of them were beautiful but also heart breaking to see how small and fragile they were and hooked up to a number of machines with tubes everywhere. I have read up a lot about NICU and watched a few videos (which had me in tears every time I might add) but I still don’t think anything is going to fully prepare me for the sight of my babies like this.

I also called Anna this evening, she`s a  lady I was given details of by Tamba. She also naturally conceived quads 7 years ago and it was amazing to talk to her and ask her all the questions I have not been able to get the answers to from anyone else. She was so lovely and made me feel a lot better about things. I asked her about food and she said she didn’t pack herself up with calories just to put on weight although she was advised to eat about 4000 calories a day. She had her quads at 29 weeks and worked right up until 27 weeks, which is incredible. Her babies were in NICU for 10 weeks and she said that the first two years were the hardest two years of her life. WOW this is going to be such a hard journey for Mart and I, I don't think i can really comprehend just how hard quite yet.

Monday, 14 November 2011

WK14: Day 1 - Finally Feeling Better

Can this be the start of what’s to come? (I hope so). I can’t remember the last time I made it through the day with such mild morning sickness, and I've also not been as exhausted as usual. It makes such a change! Mentally I've been feeling quite strong today too. I still don’t know how we are going to manage financially which is such a worry. I really need to start looking at companies I can write to this evening. I’ve put it off for a while as I don’t want to send a load of letters out and then something happens but now is as good a time as any. Mart keeps telling me that we’ll be ok...I really hope we will. At the moment I feel like we are taking a huge leap into the darkness.

Can’t wait to see my little stars on Wed! Two weeks feels like ages.

Sunday, 13 November 2011

WK13: Day 7 - Comfort Rocks

The last few days have been quite uneventful. I’ve just slept a lot and eaten loads. I been having quite a few abdominal pains which I’m hoping are only stretching pains rather than anything serious. They’ve been going on for the last couple of days and I can’t find a way to ease them other than dose myself up on paracetamol. It’s been an emotional time and my nausea shows no real sign of going anywhere for a while either. We went to the park today and i couldn’t stop myself from looking at the other mums and children trying to imagine myself with 3 more. It’s going to be really hard! A close friend popped in for a visit and we chatted about writing an Autobiography about my life. I seem to have had quite an interesting journey over the last 30 years with this being the real cherry on the top. It would be amazing to be able to tell my story for others to read. I have recently come across a book called ‘The Good Sisters’ which is the story of the first surviving c-section quads. Amazingly they were born at Southmead hospital in Bristol. Their website has a couple of pages of the book available to read and it’s absolutely fascinating. I really must get a copy!

I think the most exciting news of the weekend is our new mattress!! WOW...its a beast, not lying it`s about 12 inches thick! Going to need LOTS of support!!! It’s been a long time coming. It’s a lot firmer than the old one so will take some time to get used to, but at least this means Mart and I can sleep happily in the same bed together :)

Here’s my 13 week bump in all it’s glory....

13 weeks pregnant

Wednesday, 9 November 2011

WK:13: Day 3 - I'm Feeling So Tired

I really struggled with my nausea and tiredness today and work was almost unbearable. I always seem to reach a slump at about 2pm which ends up in me either having to put my head down on my desk or having to go into a meeting room to lie on the sofa for 10mins. Today was particularly bad and I had to go for a walk around the block to get some fresh air. I also had some horrible abdominal and back pains which I couldn't help worry about. When I keep being told what a high risk pregnancy this is, it’s going to be hard not to worry about the slightest niggle. I have been feeling great mentally after my healing session yesterday, but it only takes something small like this to make you question your body and make you feel bad again. I also told work today about the specialist advising that I’d probably need to stop work around 20 weeks. They seemed to really understand which I hope continues as it takes so much of the worry off me.

Something that I forget to mention yesterday about the specialist was that he measured me and said I was measuring about 17-20 weeks, so I’m about two months bigger than I should be with a singleton. I’ve already put on nearly a stone as well. (6.3kg)

WK13: Day 2 - Specialist Day

I had another good day today. Mart ended up sleeping on the floor last night as I seem to sleep better when he’s not in the bed. I felt really bad to start off with but I appreciated it so much and had a much better nights sleep!

The specialist obstetrician appointment went well. The doctor was not the specialist that I am booked in with as she is on holiday, but he was friendly enough and tried to answer as many questions as he could. He didn’t really tell me much more than I already know with regards to the likelihood of any of the risks I keep being told about actually happening or about nutritional needs and requirements. With regards to the food, he also said just eat a good amount of healthy food as the babies will take from me what they need. From what I`ve read, this is nothing like the advice that you are given in the USA. I am finding it quite hard to believe that I shouldn't been given some kind of calorie count or extra nutritional info on calorie intake and portions.

I’ll just have to trust my instincts again on this one. He wasn’t able to confirm a due date as he kept telling me anything could happen in the pregnancy which could change my needs and circumstances. It is most likely though to be March sometime as I thought, and it would be by c-section. He also confirmed that I would probably start finding work very difficult from about 20 weeks onwards (27th Dec) so it will just be a case of continuing with my fortnightly appointments which will be the deciding factor on the final date. It’s great to finally have some indication on this date. He also did a quick scan to check the heart beats. I was so scared when he went off to get the machine, but luckily everything was fine and we saw four little hearts beating away. I feel so attached to them all now! They were moving around a lot which was so sweet. He confirmed I would need to see a specialist every two weeks, so that means I’m now seeing three separate medical teams every two weeks, and that’s without physio or antenatal classes.

The team so far consists of my community midwife, a specialist sonographer and a specialist obstetrician. I went back to work feeling very calm and happy that I now have  a better indication of how the doctors want to run this pregnancy, which is just literally one step at a time. For me being the complete planaholic and organisational queen, it’s really hard for me to try and run it this way but unfortunately I am going to have to just go with the flow and let things happen organically when they’re meant to.

I went for a Kinesiology and Reiki session this evening which was lovely! It was emotional talking through my fears and emotions but also very grounding at the same time and really hoping that I will benefit from it as some very positive feelings and emotions came out of my time there.

Monday, 7 November 2011

WK13: Day 1 - Food Glorious Food

I had quite a good day today. I was awake loads last night, but it’s becoming a nightly occurrence now so it’s not so hard on me the next day. I can’t work out whether it’s the mattress that’s crap or whether i’m just getting bigger and more uncomfortable having to wake every couple of hours needing the loo and still sometimes needing to go downstairs for a middle of the night snack to help ease the nausea. I only had to venture to the toilet twice last night luckily. It makes me laugh as this is how I was when I was about 7 months pregnant with Luke!

Luke wasn’t in the mood for nursery today. To be honest he hasn’t liked going much at all lately. I’m a bit worried about him as he normally loves nursery and so suddenly crying every time I take him now is horrible for me! We have explained to him that Mummy is pregnant and it seems that he may be feeling it more than I realise. I have been around so little lately as well that he must feel a bit neglected by me. It’s going to be a challenge for all of us when the babies arrive so am going to do everything I can to make sure I still spend quality time with him. Unfortunately he is also going to have to go through the whole natural process of having all of our attention to now having to share it with someone else. In our case four someone elses. It’s going to be really hard for him, and for us! I feel very bad about it.

Besides the nausea I’m definitely in high spirits today! I’ve been eating loads, here’s just what I ate between 9-5 :)
2 Crumpets
8 crackers
1 pastie
1 orange
tuna salad with egg and potato
bag of crisps

My energy lasted to about 3pm and then I just felt exhausted. If it continues like this I wonder how long I'm realistically going to last at work. I had coffee with a colleuge who’s due in a month and I couldn’t help feeling a little envious when she spoke about her baby. I’m trying to imagine how I would be feeling if I was carrying one and not four. She is so supportive, as is everyone else close to me whom I’ve told. I feel really blessed for that. I try my best at work to concentrate, but it’s so hard when I feel so tired. I also can’t stop thinking about the specialist appointment I have tomorrow. I wonder if they are going to be able to answer all the questions I have. I've not had very much luck so far. 

I was so glad to get home at the end of the day. It was amazing to see Mart and Lukes smiley welcoming faces. Mart really makes me feel happy. I couldn’t have asked for someone more loving and caring at a time like this. The house was all warm and my bed was ready for me to climb into. I spent some lovely quality time with Luke before I went to bed. He is so inspirational, I love the thought of another 4 of him playing and laughing together!

Sunday, 6 November 2011

WK12: Day 7 - The Bump is Growing

After quite a difficult week, it’s nice to report that I’ve had a good weekend :) I woke up yesterday feeling like I really needed some time alone with Mart, and I think he felt the same. We were luckily able to leave Luke with a friend and go into town to spend some time together as well as look for some clothes for my rapidly growing belly. I desperately need a coat as it’s getting so cold but didn`t have much luck finding one, they are all so expensive. I just can’t justify spending £60 on something I am going to wear for a few months. My nausea has been a lot better this weekend as well. I’m still really tired but that also seems to be a bit more manageable, rather than the usual head in the hands tired.

We’ve spent a lot of time talking about all the things we are going to need and ways that we can utilise space in the house. We’re only in a two bed place, so we are going to need to move at some point, but for the meantime to save as much money as we can so it’s probably best if we stay where we are. I have been looking for 3 bed places in the area to get an idea on what’s out there, but there just doesn’t seem to be much available.

One of my dearest friends came round today and cooked us most amazing roast dinner. She also cooked some other meals to go in the freezer which was so kind! I really don’t know what I would do without my amazing friends, they are so good to us. Her little girl Naomi is one of Luke`s best buddies and he absolutely loves having her round to play. The house is usually chaos when the two of them get together!

Last but not least, here’s the weekly bump pic... I can’t believe how much I’m growing

 12 weeks pregnant

Friday, 4 November 2011

WK12: Day 5 - Twins & Multiples

I went to see my midwife today. The appointment was ok, not much to discuss with her really. She did the usual blood pressure and urine tests which were both fine. It’s quite clear that there’s no one with any multiple experience at my local surgery. They were the ones asking me the questions and looking at the scan’s rather than the other way round, it made me feel quite sad. As exciting as it is to say that I’m expecting quads, I didn’t realise how lonely the whole experience would be. There’s lots of people eager to ask questions but not many who are able to support me.

Mart picked up a double buggy today that I found on a great website called ‘Freecycle’ (the name says it all! a website for people to put up stuff that don’t want anymore). It coincidentally happens that the lady who’s buggy it was runs a Bristol Twins and Multiples group. Even better it’s about 5 mins walk from us. That’s such great news, at least I won’t have to go far when I eventually feel brave enough to venture out the house with them all! 

Mart’s had the week off potty training Luke which seems to have gone pretty well! I can’t imagine how potty training four is going to be! it makes me laugh just thinking about it.

I’m off to bed early again as I’m not much company for anyone!

Thursday, 3 November 2011

WK12: Day 3 - Emotions are Running High

Wow what an emotional day today was! Luckily I woke up feeling better as I spent the whole of yesterday off work in bed. My migraine finally decided to subside in the afternoon after 72hours. Mart and I were up at the hospital at 9 am this morning to see the specialist sonographer. We spent the first half and hour or so in a room with him and the midwife running through the pregnancy again being asked the same questions on fertility treatment and whether anyone had spoken to us about the risks and the options we had. I’d been waiting for this bit... I wanted to point out my frustration of the fact that we hadn’t had any contact from the hospital for two weeks, which I thought was quite odd as I knew he was about to launch into risks and reduction. You really would think that if this is the route they encourage that it wouldn’t have taken someone two weeks from the first scan to sit us down and discuss this. It almost seems like a life time since the last scan two weeks ago, but I decided to keep my mouth shut as I do understand NHS hospitals and staff are busy and I’m very grateful for the care I receive. After making us aware of all the risks invloved in a multiple pregnancy he gave us the following options.

  1. Termination of the whole pregnancy
  2. Selective reduction (probably of the monochorionic pair)
  3. Continue with the pregnancy and take it one step at a time.

It was a lot of information to take in in such a short space of time and even though we had read up about all of the risks he had brought up and decided to continue with the pregnancy prior to today, it was very emotional to have to be bombarded with it all in such a matter of fact fashion. I hoped nothing had changed in Martins head about the whole thing as I looked to him to get the reassurance I needed to confirm with the specialist that we had decided to go with ‘option 3’ as he had put it. He then went on to make sure I understood that all aspects of the care would be difficult including scanning and problems detecting growth restriction and malformations. He then spoke to me again about the risks of pre-eclampsia, anaemia and bleeding. We confirmed with him again that we would like to continue with the pregnancy so we went off for the scan.

The scan then presented its own emotional twists and turns. Quite soon into the scan the sonographer thought that he saw an empty sac so told us that ‘nature had taken its course’ I thought that’s what I heard him say so I quickly jumped on him asking him what exactly he’s meant by that. He said that one of the babies had died. I wasn’t ready for the way I reacted to this news. My body went numb and a wave of sadness washed through me. I started to cry (as quietly as possible) as I knew that this was going to be a possibility all along. As much as you mentally prepare yourself for these things, you can never tell how it’s really going to feel. It made me realise just how attached I was to these tiny little babies inside me already. I couldn't look at the screen after that. The thought of losing any of the others after seeing them wasn’t easy for me. Mart looked at me and stroked my hand, but also shook his head as if to say, it’s ok the baby is fine. Just as he did that the sonographer stopped and said ‘oh I’m really sorry I think I’ve made a mistake, here’s the fourth baby and it has a heartbeat’ he basically just couldn’t see the third sac and baby when he initially looked. What a flip of emotions in such a short space of time. The rest of the scan went fine. All babies roughly measure 59mm with all body parts appearing normal. Their nuchal translucency was also measured to screen them for Down Syndrome. These all came back as 1:4503 which is very good. 

We left feeling a mix of emotions. We are so happy that everything is ok, but it was such an emotional drain on the mind and body. I really hope we aren’t going to feel like this every time we go for a scan!

So here are the babies. The scan pics aren’t very good this time.

This is baby one who is lying on my lower left 

These are the twins who are both on my right 

Finally here’s number four who is above baby one on my left.

Tuesday, 1 November 2011

WK12: Day 1 - Migraine

I woke up today with the same splitting headache I had yesterday and last night and it’s not one of those headaches you can put up with either. I’ve been on the paracetamol pretty much constantly for the last 24hrs which I don't like as I'm not one to pop medicine unless I really need it. As it’s Monday I had to try and make it into work for the morning at least to pull the campaign reports from the system for our client calls! The only thing that kept me going is the thought that I have my 12 week scan on Wed. I’m really looking forward to seeing the babies again. It almost doesn’t seem real as the last scan was such a shock and still in a bit of a daze! I decided to tell work today that I'm carrying quads. What a reaction!!! I have never seen so many shocked faces. Now that it’s sunk in a little bit for me it’s amazing to see the way people react when they first hear quads. I was asked my favourite question again, ‘So did you have IVF’ I think I'm going to get a t-shirt made so I don't have to keep repeating the same thing over and over again.

I feel another sense of calm and peace with this pregnancy now by sharing it with people at work. It’s quite a big step to acceptance of the whole thing. I had to leave the office and go to the NHS drop in centre at midday as my headache was still really bothering me. They checked my urine and blood pressure and everything seemed to be fine, so there’s nothing they could do. I went home and ended up back at the doctor at 6pm this evening feeling even worse. It`s definitely a migraine rather than a headache and I keep wondering if I'm lacking something in my diet, but I can’t think what as I`ve been making a concerted effort to get all the right nutrients and drink plenty of water. Who knows when there are so many little ones trying to get the right nutrients to grow inside me? The doctor was lovely and reassured me that migraines are quite common in pregnancy and that unfortunately they don’t really know why they happen. She prescribed me some codeine which is the least ‘offensive’ of the strong painkillers. It’s the one least likely to cause birth defects so in small quantities it should be fine.